Talking Headstrong

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A few things have happened since I started blogging about my mental health…

  1. It’s improved (talking, you see)
  2. People have opened up to me (talking, again)
  3. The Headstrong Project was born

And it’s the 3rd item that’s the subject of this blog.

Who is it?

The Headstrong Project is the brain child of myself, Dan Horsman, Alex Bowdery, and Sophie Cox.

Dan has had his own mental health challenges and was keen to give something back. He has successfully set up and hosted get-togethers aimed at encouraging men to talk about their mental health in a relaxed environment. An important job.

Outside of Headstrong Dan spends his time being very handsome and working for Savills where he’s definitely not an estate agent.

Alex is a keen and talented film maker (he’s worked with Jason Statham you know). His creative talents, interest in mental health and movie making skills led to the first Headstrong mini project – a powerful short film based on real life testimony of people’s mental health struggles.

In his non-Headstrong life Alex plays squash, takes dramatic photos and enjoys the occasional cider.

Sophie joined the project for two very important reasons.

1 – make real change in the fight against mental health stigmas

2 – control 3 blokes that have huge ideas, small wallets, and questionable organisational skills

In her “normal” life Sophie is a Flavour Doctor (seriously), mother, and party host extraordinaire.

The Headstrong Team – passionate, creative, organised.

What is it?

In simple terms, The Headstrong Project aims to breakdown barriers (stigmas), raise awareness and provide support around mental health through original projects and events.

It’s 2019 and people still struggle to talk about their mental health as easily as they do their physical health. Why? Mental health is as real as physical health. Mental health can impact physical health and vice versa. Mental health can lead to absence from work, family feuds, isolation, and death. It can lead to death yet we don’t talk about it!

At Headstrong we talk about it. All the time. We talk about it to our families, colleagues, friends, neighbours, and pets (probably). We tweet about it, Instagram it, post it on Facebook and share it on LinkedIn. And most importantly we aim to encourage others to do the same. Talking about mental health should be as normal as taking about the weather. That’s our mission. Our projects and events will create comfortable, judgement free environments for the conversations to continue.

Speaking of projects and events – We are bursting with ideas! Art projects, photography events, football matches, charity balls, yoga…and, most crucially, simple one-to-one chats.

Since our inception in July of this year we’ve met, and begun working with, Dorset Mind, Rural Mental Health Matters, The Blackmore Vale Partnership, The Mental Health Roadshow, and independent therapists. We’ve created a film, posted daily well-being tips, held socials, had one-to-ones, hosted quiz nights, presented at events, and attended charity balls.

We are Headstrong and we’re on a mission.

#beheadstrong

If you’d like to learn more, reach out, or simply ask a question please contact us via our social media

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People can be awesome

This post is a bit off-piste from the general mental health stuff but it highlights the importance of surrounding your with good people….

Back in 2014 our second child was born with bowel malformation that was continuously misdiagnosed for the first year of his life. When the correct diagnosis was finally made, which was “just in time” (hard words to hear),  he started out on a year long journey that would include multiple hospital stays, 3 surgeries and a temporary colostomy bag. This was easily the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with in my life, and I know my wife would say the same. What you go through when a child is very ill is hard to put in to words. All I can really say is that you’d do anything to trade places. Let me suffer, not him. But you can’t trade places. You have to dig deep, really fucking deep.

Digging deep is made a lot easier when you have people digging with you. And we had many. This post is a nod to those people who were there for us during our greatest challenge. Those people that gave up time, money and energy to make sure we had the support we needed.

I don’t need to name check those people, they know who they are. What’s more is I know they’ll be reading this because  they’re still here for us, and our kids, 5 years later.

I guess I’m trying to give some advice here, and this is it….

Assess the people you chose to have in your life and ask yourself, would they be there for me in my darkest hour?

If the answer is no – get rid.

If the answer is “I don’t know” – get rid.

If the answer is yes – keep them close, and crucially, be prepared to be there for them during their challenges.

People can be dicks, people can be awesome. Choose wisely.